The Process Of Grief Counseling

By Jason Hughes


Counseling for grief can be very helpful when you have lost someone that was dear for you. You will feel a great deal of emptiness inside, especially when you lose a soul mate or a child. This is something that you may never get over, even with grief counseling. However, a professional person can make this easier to deal with and this is what makes the difference at the end of the day.

It can affect you in different ways. Some people would be very close to their loved one. In the beginning, you will feel like giving up on life. However, as time goes by this will improve. The counselling helps you to set goals and to know what to do when you are feeling depressed or anxious. You will be relieved when you find out that there are stages of grief which is something that everyone goes through.

Working with other people in a group can be very helpful because you begin to see that there are others that are in the same boat. People don't always get the same out of individual therapy because they feel that the therapist has not been through what they have been through.

It could be the fact that you depended on a spouse and you had a very good relationship with them. You may feel at a loss. You will also need to handle your finances at this point. In addition to this, you will also have small children that need attention. They need to be nurtured because they will also be going through a lot of issues that need to be dealt with.

When you lose someone like this, you can go through a range of different feelings and emotions which will go up and down from one day to another. Sometimes you will feel like blaming God. Other days you will become angry and blame the person who has died. Then you will feel bad and blame yourself and become depressed, feeling a lot of sorrow in your life. This can continue for days. It is important to be able to express this in therapy. Besides group therapy, sometimes you will be able to focus on practical methods as well as something more creative.

It can be a time of confusion because you will be angry and you will want to blame your loved one. You will also want to blame God and you will feel bad about this. On the other hand, you will miss the person who has died. This is something that goes around in your mind on a daily basis.

There are practical things to take into consideration which are a lot more useful and healthy. Things like getting enough sleep, getting enough exercise, making sure that you socialize and sticking to a good eating plan are important aspects that you should think about. The therapist will reinforce this during the sessions, and this kind of check up is so important.

People who rely on this too much to help them over the next couple of years are not doing themselves any favours. You need to be able to talk about your problems. Of course, you need to be able to get into a routine. You need to be able to get out of bed, and focus on the practical issues. A counsellor will also help you with these areas in your life, because they are just as important.




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